So let me paint the picture: you see a sexy girl in a club, mall, or tennis club. You dare to talk to her, you make her laugh, and somehow you manage to get her number. You think to yourself “SWEET! I’m in.”
You end up calling her a couple of days later, as the rule book suggests … to ask her out. She does not answer. You think, “Hey, I’m probably busy” and try again later that day. You still don’t get an answer. So you call again and you finally get an answer. You talk to her hoping things are going to pick up where you left off and are completely stunned when she starts making excuses for why she can’t meet you. She says she will contact you and she never does. You keep scratching your head, thinking to yourself “Where did it go wrong?”
Rule No. # 1: Contact her before 36-48 hours
I know it sounds difficult, right? But you have to stick to these rules. Because when you wait 36-48 hours you have less chance of looking needy.
I’ve seen cases where, a few minutes after the date a text message arrives. Not cool. You know why? Because you have gone through all the mystery through the door.
Just make sure that when you follow this rule you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. A little over four days and the girl (if she’s interested in you) starts to get mad that you didn’t call her within that “call period” and she assumes you’re not interested.
Rule No. # 2: send readiness texts
You know that getting a date is like making a sale. Except that the item you are selling is yourself. So in other words, you’ll have to look like something she would want to go out with or buy.
That does not mean to be something that you are not. But it does mean that for the moment you operate within certain guidelines until you’ve internalized all these “game things” … so bear with me, okay?
So as part of this, stick to the rule of sending her a message before calling her. All girls are comfortable with messages. In fact, we like them better to start with. See what’s great for us and it’s great for you too. It means that you can really think about what you want to write, you don’t have to think on the spot.
Now the main agenda with texting is to warm it up. Let her know that she is on your radar and that you will be in touch with her soon.
If a guy messages us within two days of delivering our number, then that’s enough for us to know you’re interested without looking really needy and cowardly.
In general, you want your messages to be short and engaging. Jokes are always acceptable, but 10 long messages in 1 are not. Do your best to end the message conversation. So when you see that the conversation is coming to an end, let her have the last word and don’t message her back.
Some of my friends have trouble with this, because they feel like they are in control by being the last word. But you have to see it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the messages first.
Rule No. 3: message to call her on the phone
It’s that simple. If you find that the woman you are interested in is not taking your calls, but is texting you, immediately after texting, give her a call. Most likely it is next to your phone and you will have to answer!
Rule No. # 4: keep it light and keep it casual
When you first call a woman, it’s not the best time to have a deep and meaningful conversation with her. In fact, you want to keep things fairly informal and brief.
The first thing you want to do when you call the girl is break the ice and make her laugh. Essentially, you want it to go back to the same state it was in when it gave you that phone number. The best way to do this is to refer to something that happened the last time you saw her. Perhaps refer to a joke that you previously found funny and provide updated content. This will take her back to that place and help her feel more comfortable with you.
That’s the thing about phone calls. You want to be able to establish comfort before you even consider asking her out. If a girl thinks that she won’t be comfortable with you or that she won’t be able to trust you, she won’t even consider going on that date with you.
So remember the rule, keep it light and casual. Break the ice and make her laugh before you even consider asking her out.
Rule No. # 5: keep it short and concise
This type of is derived from the other points. But seriously, don’t talk too much. Like five minutes. As a general rule of thumb with this whole dating and gaming business … Less is always MORE!
You don’t have to get an update on what this girl has been up to in the last two days. She doesn’t have to know all of your past relationships before you go on a date.
All you have to get a girl to do … is to know you, like and trust you and then you can get her to go anywhere and do almost anything with her.
Rule No. # 6: Leave a voicemail, that’s it!
If you have to leave a voicemail, make sure it’s unique. When you are courting a girl, you must remember to give her the space to think of you. If you constantly try to obstruct her space, then she is not going to appreciate it at all.
So with a voicemail, you have to remember to keep it short and to the point. You don’t have to repeat your number and all that boring stuff. Just leave a short message and then hang up.
So what should you say? Something that prompts her to call you back usually works. It can also be an opportunity for you to challenge yourself. For example: “Hi Susie. This is John. I just wanted to let you know that I have tested and checked your voicemail and it is in good working order. A thank you phone call would be appreciated.”
So, when calling a girl, keep in mind that you may get her voicemail, so know what she’s going to say if this happens. There’s nothing worse than a long voicemail with a guy who doesn’t know what he’s talking about, who is wasting his time and credit!
- Before you give up, try these things first. Message first. If the girl responds, then your chances of talking to her again are much higher.
- If you text a girl and she doesn’t reply … and this message contained a call to action on her behalf. So you need to know that you’re going to have to do a great job to get this girl on a date with you.
- Persistence is not the only tool you need. There is no point in doing the wrong things over and over again in the hope of getting a positive result in the end.
- Remember to cheer on a girl with you. You can tell that a girl has grown attached to you when she laughs at your jokes and the conversation flows.
- When a girl talks easily, it means that she is comfortable with you. If you find her quieter than usual, then there is something and she is not comfortable, because A = she thinks you are a freak or B = has not gotten used to you yet.
- As for what you should talk to her … your main goal is to be cocky, funny, make her laugh and have a good time.
- Be short and sweet and always leave her wanting more.